When you ask me what I love about myself
I don't think I could ever point out anything physical about me
I think that's problematic not because of the wave of body positivity but because I think that if I loved my body, my face, the physical I would do more things to take care of it and I think that this would very much become something I loved about myself when I started making more efforts to take care of it. I think that that is one of my biggest goals, my goal isn't to look good, it is to feel physically healthy to have physical strength,to give my body the exercise it needs as well as the food it needs to function for me. I love that since I was young I was able to notice that writing was one of my biggest strengths. I love that my personality didn't fit with everyone. I love my weirdness, my awkwardness. I love how it helps me learn what people work with me and which don't pair well. It helps me be more picky about the people who stay in my life and which shouldn't. I love that I have the power and strength to realize how I should be treated but I want to make sure that I'm a person that treats others the way they deserved to be treated. Regardless of their behaviors and actions I want to be able to respond with kindness and understanding. I want to make sure that my emotional reactivity, my anger is something that I can control, that I find the steps I need to take and make people aware of those so that I can regain my posture and be able to come back with an open mind. It is something I know I need to practice to help me not be active participant nor an instigator. I don't want to be right anymore, I just want to be heard and understood and this is not only something that's limited to me that is why I need to learn how to make sure whether or not the argument is worth losing a person over or even whether a merits a response and might be easily solvable. I need to allow others to tell me what they need when they feel anger, what they do so that I am able to accommodate them as they should accommodate for me too. Other people want to be understood and feel validated and it is not fair for me to ask for it if I am not actively practicing it or making the effort to do the same for them. I should be opening the space for them and acknowledging where they are coming from and ensuring that I'm picking up the important pieces and make sure that I ask to make sure I do not misinterpret the meaning or even the emotion behind it. I love that I am trying to open my mind and that I am willing to practice the behaviors and actions so that I am role model to other people when I ask for the same respect be given to me. And realize when this is not given to me after I have practiced it that a conversations needs to be had at what is the best place to start at because everyone's pace of change is different and although patience is key there needs to be steps being made everyday and positively reinforced. I need to make sure that I am positively reinforcing behaviors that I like from the people around me. I love myself for starting this hard journey and taking initiative to hold myself accountable for the things I haven't been doing. I love myself for being able to have these productive conversations with myself about what I need, how I can help myself and what I want to do. I love that I can acknowledge my negative thoughts and not avoid them, I love that I am able to be mindful of my thoughts both positive and negative and letting go. I love that I am making an effort to bring myself back to the present moment. I love myself for being able to smile in pictures and feel a warmth inside of me that I hadn't felt very often anymore. I love myself for being myself and never being ashamed of who I am or even why I am the way I am.
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